Joy? Or Nah?
Happy Friday!!! I really hope everyone had an amazing and productive week. I on the other hand haven't been having the best few days, but I'm really trying to make the most of it. And because of that, I think it only makes sense to talk about happiness for this week's Lifestyle post.
When you're a kid, things are pretty simple. You're either happy or you're not. But as you grow older, the concept of "happiness" seems to become more complex, and in turn, difficult to achieve. I think people in general have a tendency to lose sight of really important things in their lives. Things that made them genuinely happy, but weren't going to necessarily help them achieve the common person's idea of "success".
We all define "success" and "happiness" in our own ways, and I noticed a lot of people consider the two words the same. Success is defined by the individual. It can cause happiness, but success doesn't always mean you'll be happy. It all depends on one thing: what was the goal?
When I'd get asked "What do you want to be in the future?", I say I want to be happy. Don't get me wrong, of course I want to be successful, but my main goal is to be happy. I'm proud to say I've been working toward that goal, and I encourage everyone to consider that to be a personal goal.
When I have my life figured out and I get to the point where I feel like I made it, I'll be successful and I'll be happy because I'm pursuing something that I feel is self-fulfilling and I'll be surrounded by the people I love. Life seems to revolve around work, and it makes sense but at the end of the day, you need to ask yourself, "Am I happy with where I'm going and what I'm doing?".
I was the type of person that would put everyone's feelings before mine. I didn't do what made me happy, and I was always doing the most to make other people happy. In the end, I wasn't left with much. It got to the point where I had to be selfish. I had to do things for myself and learn to say no to others and it really did change my life and I'm glad that it did. There will always be those few people you can't help but be selfless for. And that's okay, it's all about balance. To me, it's okay to be selfless towards the ones that are selfless toward you. But you can't help anyone if you can't help yourself.
The biggest lesson I've learned in all of this is that if you're not happy, there's no way you'll make anyone else happy. And if you're not happy, find out why. Figure it out and everything will fall into place.